From Mister Rogers
Here are some comments that Fred
Rogers has offered families and caregivers
in times of crisis. We hope these
comments will be helpful for you.
Like you, we are grieving for those
whose lives have been tragically
- Somewhere deep inside each one
of us human beings is a longing
to know that all will be well.
Our children need to hear from
us adults that we will do everything
we can to keep them safe and to
help them grow in this world.
- When Fred Rogers was a boy and
would see scary things on the news,
his mother would say to him, "Look
for the helpers. You will always
find people who are helping."
- In a time of worldwide stress,
it's easy to give in to feeling
helpless. We can take care of our
children by sticking to our normal
routines. To respect our children
enough to listen to what they're
telling us. And to be assured that
our questions are just as important
as our answers.
To print off a PDF version of the
Mister Rogers pamphlet from which
the above suggestions derive, visit www.fci.org/brochure.
in the Newsworthy section,
you will find more ways to help children
deal with the events that have occurred
in our country.
The Sesame Workshop also has
an array of helpful information
Additional advice from Stand
- Continuously reassure your children
that you will help to keep them
- Turn off the TV. Overexposure
to the media can be traumatizing.
If your older children are watching
the news, be sure to watch with
- Be aware that your child's age
will affect his or her response.
Adolescents in particular may be
hard hit by these kinds of events,
and need more intensive, expert
support and counseling.
- Calmly express your emotions,
but remember that a composed demeanor
will provide a greater sense of
security for your child.
- Give your children extra time
and attention and plan to spend
more time with your children in
the following months.
- Let your children ask questions,
talk about what happened, and express
- Play with children who can't
talk yet to help them work out
the fears they have based on the
atmosphere around them.
- Keep regular schedules for activities
such as eating, playing, and going
to bed to help restore a sense
of security and normalcy.
- Consider how you and your child
can help. Children are better able
to regain their sense of power
and security if they feel they
can help in some way.
- Participate in community gatherings
where people are connecting and
demonstrating caring support and
Additionally, the following Web sites include helpful information:
Tolerance, a project of the Southern
Poverty Law Center
Academy of Pediatrics
Academy of Child and Adolescent